The bafflingly hard pain we feel when our children leave home for university | Letters

Doug Kessler says parenting is a form of continuous grieving from the time your kids are born. Plus a letter from Mark de BrunnerAs a father who has seen both daughters fledge, I felt Zoe Williams’ pain and bafflement as her first son prepares to leave for university (My son is leaving home for university – and my severe denial has surprised me, 17 August).No one talks about it but, from the moment of birth, parenting is continuous grieving. We mourn the loss of our one-year-old when they turn two. The fun of the early teen years are only partial compensation for never again watching our toddler invent walking. The move away from home is a big one. When it happened to us, I was grateful for all the practice I’d been gifted. But it still hit hard. Bafflingly hard.Doug KesslerLondon Continue reading...